Explaining Divorce to Your Kids

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Telling your kids that you are filing for divorce is something that no one wants to go through. Causing them pain is the last thing that you want to do. However, children deserve to know and understand why their parents are no longer together in the way they once were. Sometimes parents will keep information from their children, only worsening the situation. We here at Law Offices of William L. Geary want what’s best for your children, which is why we are providing you with tips for explaining divorce to your kids.

1. Explain Based on Maturity

Your 15 year old will understand different things than, let’s say, your 6 year old would. Your older children will recognize that the courts are involved and might even be interested in the child custody process. However, your younger children might have a more challenging time conceptualizing how the divorce process works. So when you break the news to the kids, keep in mind their maturity levels and what they can understand.

2. Never Lie to Your Kids

If your children ask questions about the divorce, you may have the instinct not to tell the truth to protect them. However, this does not usually end well. Your children will eventually discover that you were not telling the truth, which may lead to feelings of mistrust developing. While it may hurt to be honest in the moment, it is better for you and your kids in the long run.

3. Create the Space for Conversation

After telling your kids about the divorce, they will likely have questions or other concerns to air. However, they may not feel they can bring them up to you unless that environment is cultivated. By openly and calmly communicating about the divorce with your children, they will feel more comfortable in bringing up their respective issues and questions.

4. Have an Experienced Family Law Team on Your Side

If you are going through a complex divorce, it should not be alone. By having an experienced family law team on your side, you can have more energy to focus on your children and family. Law Offices of William L. Geary can give you the assistance that you deserve.


If you need assistance with the divorce process, contact Law Offices of William L. Geary today at (614) 289-1227 to speak with our attorneys.